Natural Ways To Delay Ejaculation

Last week I promised I was going to share
with you some natural ways to delay
ejaculation, prevent weak erection, overcome
premature ejaculation and increase sexual
stamina. Premature ejaculation, or ejaculating
before you or your wife want you to, is a
common problem that strikes most men at
some point in their lives. Several factors can
influence when ejaculation occurs, but it can
be controlled with some forethought or, in
extreme cases, medical intervention. Here are
some strategies to help you get over
premature ejaculation and improve your
sexual stamina.

Sometimes we do not have any medical
condition; this condition just happens. For
quick fixes, I suggest you just wear a condom
or two together at the same time as the case
may require. It sounds too simple to be true,
but it works for a lot of men. The most natural
thing is to apply strategic pressure. With a
little anatomy knowledge, you can delay an
oncoming ejaculation by applying pressure to
one of two spots.
First is the perineum pressure: this is pressing
on the perineum, perineum is a spot midway
between your scrotum and your anus, and firm
pressure will help to stop ejaculation because
this spot reaches through to the prostate
gland. It is the prostate that contracts and
expands during orgasm and then expels the
ejaculation fluid. If you find it difficult to do,
just make sure you are very clean down there
and there after, ask your wife to assist in
applying this loving pressure for you. Then the
testes tug: When a man is so close to orgasm
or very near orgasm, his scrotum rises up
closer to his body. You can delay ejaculation
by gently pulling your testes down and away
from your body.
To make it more romantic and passionate,
teach and train your wife to do this for you.

Another natural way is to do all you can to
reduce anxiety. For many husbands’ extreme
williness to over-impress their wives, couple
with anxiety and pressure to perform have
been a major contributor to premature
ejaculation. If you can just relax and
remember that your wife probably cares about
you and all you represent in her life more than
the timing of your orgasms, and that
premature ejaculation doesn’t mean you can’t
still be good in bed. Then, don’t start off sex
with orgasm in focus please and please, take
climaxing out of your expectations. Instead of
viewing intercourse only as a means of
achieving orgasm, reframe it as relaxing,
pleasurable time with your adorable wife and
season of bonding that you’ll enjoy regardless
of ejaculation. For effectiveness, take time out,
have a family meeting and discuss this new
mindset with your wife, so that she can stop
pressuring you, intentionally or un-
intentionally. Then while in the very act of sex,
do all you can to think nonsexual thoughts. If
you notice yourself getting too excited, turn
your thoughts to something distant, abstract
and unsexy, such as math, rush hour traffic or
football match.
Only dwell on it long enough to give yourself a
short break from arousal, maybe 5 to 10
seconds, and then refocus your attention on
your wife and the action of sex. Avoid thinking
of a topic that is going to make you stressed
or cause you to lose your arousal entirely.

Thoughts such as the payment of the children
school fees, Nigeria erratic power supply or
some moods killer thoughts should be
avoided. Now proceed further and try edging.
Edging, or orgasm control, is the practice of
maintaining a high level of sexual arousal
while delaying ejaculation. It takes practice,
but it gets easier over time. Here are two
methods recommended to stop premature
ejaculation. Stop-and-start method: Have
intercourse as usual until you feel yourself
coming uncomfortably close to orgasm.
Immediately and abruptly, cease all
stimulation for 30 seconds, and then start
again. Repeat this pattern until you’re ready to
ejaculate. Squeeze method: Have intercourse
as usual until you feel like orgasm is seconds
away. Abruptly, stop other stimulation and
gently squeeze your thumb and forefinger
around the part of the penis where the glans
meet the shaft (or your wife could do this).

After squeezing for a few seconds, try and
pause all stimulation for another 30 seconds
before resuming intercourse. Repeat this
pattern until you’re ready to ejaculate.
Then try and change sexual positions. Some
intercourse positions put less pressure on the
glans (or the most sensitive part of the penis).
Here’s what to do: Try “passive” positions. Lie
beneath your wife, or try a side-by-side (or
spooning) position. Avoid “active” positions.
Missionary and rear-entry positions place the
most stimulation and friction on the glans, so
consider taking them off the menu for now.

And then take it slow. Depending on your
personal sensitivity, slowing your movements
and opting for gentler, more teasing
intercourse can help you hold off orgasm
longer. If you find yourself getting too close to
orgasm, slow down a bit, change to a new
position, or take a break to stimulate your wife
in fore play. Make sure you focus on foreplay.
Sometimes, “premature” ejaculation is a frame
of mind. Even if your ejaculation comes
quickly during intercourse, you can still give
your wife a great sexual experience through
more extended, intimate, attentive and
generous foreplay. Stimulate your wife enough
manually, orally or with toys, and she may not
need or want a long session of intercourse to
finish happy.

Then of course, do PC muscle exercises.
Flexing and strengthening your pubococcygeus
(PC) muscle can help you exert more control
over ejaculation. (Note that this is also called
Kegel exercises, which you might have heard
me recommend for women. The muscle is the
same in both sexes.) Locate your PC muscle.
Put one or two fingers right behind your
testicles.

Pretend that you are urinating, and then try to
stop the flow with a quick muscle contraction.

That muscle you just used to stop the flow
from the bladder is your PC muscle. Flex the
muscle regularly. Try to do 10 to 20 squeezes
in a set, 2 or 3 times a day. Do a set
whenever you’re bored or stationary, like when
you’re sitting at your desk or in traffic. No one
will be able to see that you’re doing them.
Squeeze your PC muscle when you feel
ejaculation coming on. Once the muscle is
strong enough, you should be able to hold it
off just like stopping flow when urinating.

Practise controlling your orgasm. When you
are with your wife, focus on improving your
control over your climax. Stimulate yourself to
the edge of climax and then stop.

Do this several times before finishing. As you
practise, learn to recognise the feeling of
getting close to orgasm, and take note of how
close you can get and still effectively stop, and
when you’ve reached a “point of no return.”

During intercourse, use that knowledge to slow
down or adjust your movements if you get too
close too early. Condoms reduce stimulation
for most men, which should prolong the time
before ejaculation. But while looking for a
condom to buy, steer clear of condoms that
are marketed as extra thin. Instead, get a
brand that allows more stimulation later.
Some condoms are coated with a slight
numbing gel on the inside. This can help you
put off ejaculation for longer without causing
numbness to your wife. (Just make sure you
know which side is where when you put it on.)

Use an analgesic cream or spray. There are
two classes of these products. The first is the
traditional “numbing” creams and sprays that
have been in the market for some time.

The
advantage is that you’ll feel less sensation,
which will delay ejaculation. While the
disadvantage is that your wife may suffer a
loss of sensation as well and of course less
sensitive intercourse is not always an
appealing notion, even in these circumstances.

There is a new class of topical herbs that
absorb into the skin to deliver a mild
anaesthetic to the sensory nerves below the
top layer of skin of the penis.

This allows men to have ejaculatory control
but with less loss of sexual sensation, and
reduces the transference to their wives. If you
routinely ejaculate less than a minute and a
half after beginning vaginal intercourse, and
none of the above fixes have worked, it might
be time to see a sex therapist.